In general Zach and I have a wonderful, open marriage full of communication and angels singing dulcet praises of our love. One major exception to this is the passive-aggresive candle.
We have a little silver toned rack that sits over our toilet. It's not the fanciest thing, but it's a nice way of getting some extra storage space for various hygiene related doodads. And one candle. One maddening candle.
Every single time I walk into the bathroom I can immediately tell if Zach has been in there recently. Every time he comes in he moves the candle from where it belongs. I think the candle is much better suited to the second shelf, where it can sit in a nice neat little wood tray where its supported and corralled. For some reason, Zach thinks the candle should precariously balance on the top shelf, where it sits on this little flimsy wire rack that I just know it is going to come crashing down from. So every time I go into the bathroom, that candle is the first thing I see, and I am compelled to fix it before attending to other business.
We've never actually mentioned the candle to each other. When its out of sight we like to just pretend that it doesn't exist, silently mocking us as it shuffles about. Really, it's just not a big enough deal to actually talk about. I'll fight over things that actually matter, but I'm not wasting a perfectly good evening over a candle. It's just our little, silent battle. I think we're both convinced that if we just keep doing this, the other person will eventually wear down and adjust to our superior candle arranging skills.
I fully support PA behavior.
ReplyDeleteThat's awesome. I think every marriage has at least one PA point. I'm slowly but consistently re-arranging my husband's arrangement of the couch cushions. I won't back down either.
ReplyDeleteHilarious
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